Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Postscript to the continuing story of the ashtray

My brother wants it!

AND he also wants the set of 8 Irish coffee glasses!



  1. This raises an interesting question and one I've pondered myself on the occasions where I've been trying to pass on something of sentimental value to others rather than discarding it:
    If your brother decides to get rid of the ashtray, will it be as distressing to you as it would be if you were the one "abandoning" it? What I mean is, is it attachment to the item and the memories or is it the feeling responsible for doing something that can be seen as perhaps betraying those memories? Interesting thoughts...
    I haven't worked out my own answer yet, though :)

  2. That's an interesting point. I was thinking - it my parents had just gotten rid of it years ago instead of giving it to me (which I don't remember their doing), I would have likely forgotten about it.

    For the most part, once I get rid of something, I don't think about it anymore, but I'll see the ashtray at my bro's.


    I think it's part attachment to the item & its memories - but I also think you've hit on something I hadn't considered: feeling responsible for betraying those memories. Yeah, that sounds like me. Like I'd be hurting the family. Oh boy.

  3. Decluttering is difficult when there are objects with strong sentimental value - but no inherent or aesthetic value. I'm not too bad at weeding things out, but Spouse is a shocker. Rugby boots from school days? I mean, really ...